But when I started writing people’s online dating profiles for e-Cyrano.com, all that changed. By the end of our phone call, I’d pare down what they’d said into an enticing short story while marketing their date-ability in the process.I’d make sure that every sentence focused on what the reader—your future boyfriend or girlfriend—could expect when dating you.Most of us online date—but many of us don’t know how to market ourselves.
I spend lots of time in this column and over at A(n)nals of Online Dating documenting the worst of the worst internet daters. But there are also some really good ones — and some mediocre ones that could be so much better if not for rookie mistakes.
Yes, you looked great, but you want to date someone who is attracted to you right now.
So select photos that look good, but could also in some universe be reasonably understood to be you.
Now, how did writing other people’s profiles help But since my dream partner hadn’t arrived in my email box yet, I thought it wouldn’t hurt. The more I worked as a profile writer, the more I realized my own profile made me sound like any other adjective-laden person online. When I put up my revised profile, my in-box became flooded with messages.
Many guys wrote more than a typical “Hey, what’s up? ” I knew they probably hadn’t read my profile and sent the same three-word question to everybody. I used to be strict with my dating parameters about age and would want a guy who was a couple years younger or older.