I remember when a national magazine trumpeted the findings (since debunked) that a woman had a better chance of being struck by lightning than of being married after 40.Seems the stats for men are on the alarming side as well (assuming marriage is your goal): Only 1 in 20 over the age of 45 will take the big walk down the aisle.Tessina says, noting that she andher husband had both gone through splits when they married 32 years ago. Divorced men have the gifts of hindsight and feedback, which make them more attentive partners in their next relationships, Sussman says."They have a more realistic picture of what it takes to have a successful relationship."This makes for a more grounded union, Dr. "When you get married a second time, your expectations are a lot lower." But that's a good thing because he's less likely to be disappointed. Lewis addsthat she has actually seen this in her own dating experiences.I've dated my share, and there is nothing stranger (or more irritating) than spending a good number of fabulous evenings with same, only to hear them eventually wax rhapsodically on the Woman of Their Dreams who is still out there somewhere, waiting.As you feel yourself magically transformed into chopped liver, you suddenly get why he is still single: an extreme case of myopia with every woman who has gone before. There are a lot of us undeserving of that stereotype, just as not all never-married men your age are Peter Pans or "set in their ways." How the sexes love to dish it out to each other. What both sexes also have in common is a fear of dying alone and unloved.But just as women like to create generalizations about never-married men, so do men about women. This poses an interesting possibility: a national chain of retirement homes for the never-married, where the couplings and uncouplings can continue until we take our last breaths, and therefore never feel at a loss for not having marched down the aisle.
With any luck, "his ex taught him about the female body, what it takes to get a woman interested and how to give her an orgasm," he says. "Divorced men are no longer living in fantasy land,"Dr.
He is a "confirmed bachelor," she a "spinster." Yeah, yeah, never-married men do have cause to huff and puff about generalizations attached to their singleness -- he's a commitment-phobe, immature, selfish.
But these are all traits that can be waved away with a knowing grin. Spinster, on the other hand, is a pretty ugly word.
Both have full -- one might even say overfull -- lives with lots of friends.
Neither has married, for similar reasons: too busy with their craft, life on the road not conducive to a relationship, etc. But when you start trotting out the societally assigned stereotypes for them, suddenly things get lopsided.